Saturday, October 13, 2007
a women's place is in the home ?
in the newspapers in the UK at the moment , the big discussion is about how women can not have it all , as they used to think. you can either have a good career or you can stay at home and have kids, but both is impossible. what do you think ? you need to back your opinion up with some good ideas...
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Hmmm quite an interesting topic indeed.
In my opinion it is possible. It's just a case of organization. For instance, one day the father does the cooking at night and the mother attends the kids and that can actually change easily from day to day.
One must also know priorities. If a kid gets sick then the parents should take turns from work to take care of the child. The rather old idea of a woman having to stay at home to look after the kids is totally foolish, why does that have to be if there’s also a man who can do the same things his wife does?
Unity and organization, I think those are the key words for a working couple with kids. Of course there is always the case of the mother or father living separately, well in that case they should reach an agreement so that the kids can stay at the mother’s while dad is working and vice versa.
I hope I made my idea clear to everyone.
All the best
Diogo
Well, it seems to me that we have gonne back ages, once again!!!!
It's really astonishing how people got that idea again...
Obviously, I don't agree not even for a moment with the ones who think that way; that's just like saying that a womens' place is at home!
Life's getting harder and harder by the second, but that doesn't mean that a woman can't face both "jobs"...
Besides, nowadays men help us out with home tasks and the ones who don't... well, let's just say that they better start helping...
As the add says "Impossible is Nothing"; so I reckon that we are able to have a job and take care of our children at the same time.
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In the past, the roles of both sexes were very well defined: men brought home the bacon while women stayed at home taking care of both the children and the house. They considered themselves full-time workers and the husband was a sort of boss, who paid for the shopping and everything his wife needed.
But things have completely changed. Some years ago, women emancipated and started not wanting to depend financially on their husbands. Therefore, the only way out was to work and earn their own salaries at the end of the month. Since then, the number of divorces has increased because they don't have to put up with everything anymore in order to survive.
Nowadays, in occidental societies, there is equality, at least in theory, between men and women and, as a result, I reckon the tasks should be shared, so that both can work and take care of the children. The idea that the place of women is in the kitchen is absolute nonsense and is only supported by couch potatoes, who still think they have married with the housekeeper.
As Diogo said, it’s all a question of organisation. For instance, while the mother cooks, the father can give the children their bath and then while the father does the dishes, the mother puts the children to bed. This way, none of the parents will be swamped with work and the children will spend the same amount of time with each one of them.
Well, I reckon that some jobs make it really difficult for women to have a successful career and at the same time run a household efficiently.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it’s impossible…just that it’s really complex.
Nowadays, more and more careers involve more than 8 hour per day of nearly continuous work. Some require lots of travelling and others entail both. That happens a lot - for instance - in consultancy career where you can work up to 12 hours per day (or even more) on a regular basis.
So, I find it hard to accept that a parent with such a demanding job will find the necessary time to raise a kid: to go to the doctor every time they get sick, help them with their homework, play with them…you know… simple but meaningful tasks that a parent should do.
Now, imagine that both parents have the very same kind of job. (Are you getting the picture?) Obviously that one of them will have to quit or change their professional career. Guess who? Of course that most of the times that person will be the mother.
And, don’t fool yourself thinking that jobs like these are highly rare because they aren’t.
Even though this type of work tend to be well-paid and these people can easily afford a full-time nanny, that only brings into question whether a child can be well-brought-up if their parents are never around. I would say no but that is just me…
With this trend in the labour-market no one should be taken by surprise by the fact that in western societies, marriage as well as motherhood is being put back. Raising a child it’s no easy task and people should take this into consideration before taking the plunge.
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